It is not uncommon to see infidelity being a household term in the *ollywood or entertainment spectrum (Yes I am trying to stereotype). And of course, Clinton, Sanford and our own Karunanidhi and his descendants have taught us to accept this in the political space too. Then came Tiger Woods who wanted to equal his affairs and grand slam titles. And now it is Charles Phillips, co-president of Oracle, who has left behind a sore lover.
What is with all the infidelities? Even Indian soaps have largely started revolving around infidelity to the point that it chokes on a person to indulge in affairs. Is monogamy a moral illusion that humans are compulsively bound to break? Interestingly I came across this article which reinforces my doubts -
Monogamy is an oddity.
If this is the case, why did law makers world-wide (barring Middle East which hasn't revised their laws in a long while) buy into this illusion? Should humanity stop flaunting their sixth sense and superiority if they cannot acquire moral clarity and conform to moral norms? Or are we too self obsessed and continue making exceptions to the ordinary societal rules?
Some food for thought!!
Potter said...
it is after all life in a metro :p
February 17, 2010 11:29 AM
Mystique said...
hehe... leave Sunil out of it though... ;)
February 18, 2010 10:16 AM
Evil's Twin said...
That was some food for thought. The article in the link is very well written.
Most of us are self obsessed and we will continue to make exceptions. I've been trying to read about this for quite sometime now, and what I've realized is that, we humans are hypocrites.
Do you agree Morality was created by man?
March 28, 2010 5:24 PM
Anonymous said...
Excuse me for poking my nose in & sharing my views ...
In life both man & women should Supplement & Complement each others role so that the relationSHIP sails in perfect rhythm and harmony.
When there is an internal conflict among the partners, the affected partner starts to move away and looks for someone who fulfills the deficiencies. This is when Infidelity sets in. This may not be always for sex as it is widely perceived.
The responsibility lies with the partners to Fine Tune themselves leaving behind Ego & Prestige so that they remain in the bounds of Culture and Morals.
After all leading a Successful Married Life is an Art.
April 3, 2010 8:15 PM
Mystique said...
@Jude: If you haven't watched Rashomon (by Akira Kurosawa), you should. It send across the same message that humanity is motivated by self interest and that our ego consumes us so much that we never cease to embellish ourselves. Virumandi was an adaptation of this movie. :)
Morality created by man? - the lines of acceptable morality was created by man. As a believer in Spirituality I think absolute truth is the ultimate morality standards.
@Anonymous: I am glad to have a discussion with anyone on my blog. :) I agree that for any relationship to succeed the couple needs to work in tandem. However I also believe that honesty is very important in any relation. If there are deficiencies in you "better" half, you should be frank about it. Seeking a secretive relationship (even if it is friendship) is not right. :)
April 8, 2010 7:10 PM
Anonymous said...
People aren’t Honest my friend …. Just because TRUTH IS BITTER and they don’t have courage to face the Truth.
Let me share a Real-Life Experience with you. Not so long ago … there was a boy who had his engagement. There was excitement in the air and everyone was looking forward for the wedding. Marriage preparations were going on in full swing. As the days passed by, small & petty issues started cropping up and the boy’s parents had growing concerns regarding the girl’s father’s unnatural behavior & attitude.
The boy’s parents had very few direct interactions with the girl’s father and felt something was going wrong. They demanded to know from the girl’s family as to why the girl’s father wasn’t speaking & interacting with them.
At this stage, the boy’s family received a Lawyer Notice falsely alleging of a Dowry Harassment. The people from the boy’s side were totally shell-shocked as Dowry wasn’t a term in their Marriage and nothing was ever Demanded. The girl’s family had spread all false rumors and made all nonsense allegations about the boy and his family and openly defamed & abused them.
The boy’s side made all inquiries and later found out that the girl had some family problem. (I hope you understand). Worst part was that the girl’s family was distantly related to that of the boy’s and the common relatives who were aware about the girl’s family problem remained mute about the subject hoping in a faith of goodwill that the girl will have a better life after marriage.
The Girl’s Father despite being a Ranked Military Officer, he didn’t have the courage to face the Truth and just to save the Ugly Skin of his, He has RUINED a BOY’S LIFE. The IRRATIONAL & RIDICULOUS ACT from the girl’s family has made the boy’s LIFE DIFFICULT, MISERABLE & SOUR. The boy has lost more than a 1.5 Years & with his name TAINTED in the society for NO FAULT of his, HE DOESN’T KNOW HOW MANY MORE YEARS WOULD GO DOWN THE DRAIN.
I just cited this un-fortunate experience of this young boy just to show that there are people on Earth who are BARBARIC in Nature for whom DIGNITY, CULTURE, MORALS & ETHICS have NO VALUES. For such people INFIDELITY has no meaning and one shouldn’t expect HONESTY from them.
We don’t expect everyone to be a Gandhiji, atleast they can be Cultured & Civilised Humans
April 14, 2010 8:37 AM
Mystique said...
@Anonymous: I feel very bad for the boy you mentioned. You pointed out one of the greatest flaws of humanity - dishonesty. However that is no reason why we should tolerate or accept it. :)
April 16, 2010 11:37 AM